The Philippines is a country where familial care and concern is as commonplace as our reputed hospitality; but this doesn’t mean that bullying doesn’t exist. In a study, 2 out of 10 Filipino students have experienced some form of bullying; and in most cases, these students’ parents and teachers do not know about the abuse because the child is too scared or ashamed to speak out.
One way to stop bullying is to identify the bully. Here’s how you can.
There are many types of bullying
Bullying isn’t one type of aggressive action. In fact, there are six types of bullying including relational bullies, serial bullies, bully-victims, aggressive bullies, indifferent bullies and group bullies.
● Relational bullying refers to a social type of manipulation, where the bully isolates others from the group.
● Serial bullying is a continuous type of harassment that seeks to dominate and control people.
● Bully-victims are those who are themselves being bullied; in turn, they bully other people to regain a sense of power.
● Aggressive bullies have a large set of followers, and often looked up to as a leader. They often bully others through physical acts.
● Indifferent bullies form a rare type of bullying, where bullying is done for sheer enjoyment and entertainment.
● Group bullies are considered the “followers” of the bully leader. They tend to bully as a group, but individual members would not do so when alone.
Girls and boys bully differently
While it is known that boys resort to physical bullying, girls have a different approach to it. Girls, most of the time, use name-calling, verbal bullying and relational aggression. Relational aggression is an emotional type of bullying where one uses “Mean Girl” tactics or social manipulation.
Making fun of other students
It can be either physical or emotional abuse. Name calling, teasing, ridiculing students in front of everyone are all signs that a student is being a bully. They often intimidate their victims. The bully may make fun of the victim’s appearance, weight, gender, or other attributes. Bullies may do this openly or behind the teacher’s back.
Look closer at their emotional outbursts
Bullies do have a hard time in suppressing their anger. These kids are aggressive and controlling in order to get whatever they want. They often pressure their peers to do something they don’t want to. If they do this in a daily basis, this is a sign of bullying.
Often the leader of a group
Bullies tend to have a large set of followers. Succumbing to peer pressure, their followers tend to do the actual bullying. The followers’ bully other people so they won’t be targets themselves. They’re often looked up by their ‘friends’ and mimic their leader’s actions.
Kids that isolate others
Bullies frequently picks people they want to be friends with and isolate others. Girls do this most of the time. They make their target feel alone and helpless. Afraid of being the next bully’s victim, bystanders avoids the current target.
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